Monday 28 December 2015

A wanderer........OR....

The pathway looked abstruse and capable of bemusing the journeyer...The real is disguised by the misrepresentations of the perplexed mind.. And the journeyer wanders... Her own fake mindset forces her to stop but she does not stop...It is her battle against her mind to keep moving and so she marches ahead...She had been a fighter till now, but just a mere fighter..And she fought and could just do that..Her energies were not spent in "where to progress" but   were rather spent in "not stopping". And so, she succeeded to move but still failed herself because in-spite of moving all through and not stopping when the circumstances were adverse, she failed to accomplish anything..
And one day she realised that all this time when she thought of herself as a focussed journeyer, she was just being a wanderer..Her fighting spirit marred by lack of reason reduced her to a mere wanderer..an aimless entity wrapped in the personification of a big tree..but a day came when the tree fell down..a rootless tree fell down...
What could she do now? Too feeble to move and realising that she was just being an irrational fighter, she lacked the strength to get up...she was unacceptable to anyone in this world. But she did fight and in some way, could win over her mind but no one registers that.. Still, she could manage to be optimistic...She regarded her journey as worthy enough of distinguishing her from the rest of the world and so, its an accomplishment in itself. The world is too ruthless to appreciate her journey...why is it that nobody admires the journey when its unfinished? The society is too used to work with the finished products of fine quality...Anything lesser is rendered inefficient and looked down upon as unfit and being tagged as a mere wanderer..
And she realised that its her life and so, nothing else mattered. And she again gathered the strength to move,but this time, she moved with a reason...A reason known only to her and that made her a journeyer in her own eyes. The world could still think of her as a wandered and it did not matter to her anymore...And she knew that she wouldn't fall this time because she had got a reason.....A reason strong enough to make her journey worthwhile.............

Tuesday 1 December 2015

"Intolerance"

The purpose of this piece is solely to voice my solidarity with one and all who are standing up against the 'intolerance' being depicted in the nation. I am not apologetic of voicing my opinion now and I would not like to justify or clarify to anyone the merits or demerits of the timing chosen by me for voicing my opinion. Whether or not I had voiced my opinion in the past, what are my political inclinations and so on and so forth are nobody's concern. I am also not concerned with quantifying 'intolerance' and measuring whether it is 'rising' or 'falling'. I would also like to clarify that I do-not wish to qualify 'intolerance' with the adjective 'religious'. Castigating individuals for belonging to a particular educational institution which protested on certain issue, hurling abuses at an individual for voicing his opinions for the sole reason that he is a celebrity (forgetting that he is firstly an equal citizen of the nation) and his opinions don't coincide with yours and so on and so forth, are all examples of extreme 'intolerance'. And they will remain so irrespective of the political dispensation of the day, in a similar manner that 'Emergency' remains a shining example of extreme 'intolerance', irrespective of the political dispensation of the day. Out of the multifarious voices rising up today, some might be sane, others not, some might be sincere and genuine, others not, some might be well-intentioned, other not, but picking up all these, bundling them together and labelling them with rhetorical terms like 'politically motivated', 'anti-national' is actually quite hilarious, bordering on the insane. So, let us please not get gobbled up by paranoia and let some sense prevail....

Monday 23 November 2015

At bewilderment to at loggerheads

In the dark dungeons of heart, hollowness prevails. The emotions are too volatile to stay permanently and often change or leave leading to a prevalence of hollowness. Filled with too much of illogical crap and multifaceted opinions, its too much filled and still be as hollow as a galaxy black hole.

There have been many attempts at concretising the views but they still win at perplexing the self. Not to be bewildered by such a state, there is a lookout for more ideas to motivate oneself to frame and give shape to a particular idea. But time seems to work on it and the thought fades away leading to more bafflement.

Tired of such a vicious circle, the mind has come up with an idea. To be at loggerheads with the heart and initiate a journey from bewilderment to a dispute with myself; a dispute, more of a war with everything except the ONE; the one that the heart-mind combo decides now. A decision with no alternative paths and a journey with no stoppages. A well thought of plan and its creative execution. At loggerheads with all the obstructionist forces, arising from within and killing them within..

Saturday 21 November 2015

I wanna go with the jogi

Mother o mother
I made friends with a falcon
I made him a sumptuous cake of grain but he does not eat it,
I fed him with my love

One day he flew off
Never to return to me

              -Wordings from a punjabi folk song...

Oh! Mother, I am in love with the jogi who came to my home and sat stubbornly at  the door. Adorning the bridal mark, i want to go with the jogi. All the pains will vanish with the solace of his embrace.
Sitting there in disguise with a bridal mark, i want to go with the jogi...

God is, God is, God is with me.

Tuesday 17 November 2015

You are unique!

Whoever you are, there is some younger person who thinks you are perfect. There is some work that will never be done if you don't do it. There is someone who would miss you if you are gone. There is place that you alone can fill.
                                - Jacob M. Bruade

Who you are? What is the purpose of your life? Why are you even living? Are these the questions that haunt an idle mind or a busy one? As busy as an ant? Industrious just as ants but not really focused towards one ambition. But you try. And that's your only satisfaction. And in the end you should be satisfied which you are. So, that's your life. And you think, and think more and more. And more. And you decide to follow a plan. A plan to glory! The final one. This should work. A hope. 

Whoever you are and whatever you are, you are the best. Because you think. And you listen and you know yourself better every moment. You try, you succeed and you fail. And every morning you get up to succeed. In the single day, you climb up 100 times and fall 200 times and then you rise up again. But you rose up! And you achieved 10% of what you had planned. And you did achieve. And you are seeing the positive side, being a sport. And 12% the next day; you improved. You are happy and you deserve a treat. That's your life. YOUR life with most of YOU in it. 

And that's who you are. And your purpose in life - To make every moment better than the previous one. To rise up every time you fall. To smile and be happy, always..Mostly..And that's what keep you going, the spirit to continue..The motivation to move. The love for your life.

Sunday 15 November 2015

In the name of Pujari Laldas

A ship in harbor is safe - but that is not what ships are for.                                                                                   -John A. Shedd

 If the fear of sinking holds the ship from sailing, the ship is bound to stagnate and even the water at the harbor will become its graveyard. A day will come soon enough when that same ship will be weakened because of its own fears; it wont even be able to withstand the usual waves that move to and fro to the same 
harbor.



For me, Pujari Laldas represented the ship that had the courage to sail in turbulent waters.  Unperturbed and poised by the communally charged environment, he held his views firm and showed resolute endurance that has become truly inspirational for me.

Though he became a victim of the extremist forces and was murdered in early 90s, his views and his voice will always reverberate in my head and he would always be alive for me, in my heart.

Friday 6 November 2015

True happiness is to rest satisfied with what you have!

Hurdles - They really test you and pulls you out of the comfort zone. They are good in that sense as they grill you and forces you to face them.
As they keeping popping up or not, you always need to be content and satisfied with your life. Thats the only thing that matters really; you ran away from a challenge or you face it; you feel intimidated by a challenge or not, its ultimately your decision and you can correct a wrong decision as well.. You do get chances mostly to grow up.. And so, be easy and be satisfied and value what you have. Thats the way to lead a good life!

Realise your powers and limitations..work towards knowing your inner self; sometimes its good to know that there may be things you cant do, goals you cant achieve than what you can do..Too much restlessness can make you miserable..have the courage to know your genuine self.

Sunday 25 October 2015

Choosing a Character

Characters...a tv character or a movie character etc...? A personification of someone real or imaginary symbolising something thats already scripted...They learn and prepare for their role, rehearse and then give their final performance....And then there are audience to judge them; sleepless nights and lots and lots of hard work is judged by the people as significant or insignificant..And the judgement of the audience becomes highly consequential and a deciding factor about career of a person..

And a person struggles..Success or failure - everyone strives for better...The satisfied being stagnates..

How about real life roles? The role as sister or mother or a brother, a husband or a wife? There are no readymade scripts in real life, only performances and all of them LIVE!!!!!! And, the audiences do exist as well and even more so aware and judgemental about your performance...Because, they are impacted if you don't perform well and so, they would make sure to teach you a lesson at any time required...And so, you try to be more cautious and aware of the situations, trying to predict them beforehand and act accordingly...Many times, you do fail... And then, you try changing characters..An employee, a husband, a son or a wife embodying an imaginary character that meets the expectations of their respective audiences..And they try to script everything.. And they rehearse and they perform and they are judged...And performance after performance, creating scripts in perplexing situations, the person remains in two minds...Follow the script or the self..And this is one decision that he has to take everyday in every other situation...And then, this life becomes a big pretence...

And then, the Sun rises...Start of a new day and an old struggle continues...A man at war with himself or his audiences...Or can he script a middle path and walk a fine line? Lets try and script it...

Friday 23 October 2015

The phoenix


And in the end it’s all just ashes….that is what remains of a human life….and when the noise and the clamour dies….when the wails become silent and the tears dry….when all get re-occupied with the routine and the mundane…..then is the time when it rises…..rises like a phoenix….taking its shape from those very ashes…..all those memories which you never even knew that they existed…..all those moments that you had never even registered….all of it and much more…..it all rises in the form of that phoenix and slowly and subtly reminds you of its presence….in between your meeting schedules…..when you are cooking in the kitchen….when you are driving….when you are reading with a cup of tea in your hand….when you are watching your favourite show on the television….when you are just about to hit the bed….when you are in your shower…..and anytime when you least expect it to…..the phoenix becomes a part of your life…..to remind you of a human life that once existed…..and also to remind you that you will also one day be that phoenix….and also to remind you, not how inconsequential human life is, but on the contrary, how precious and priceless it is…..because it might just end any moment….and you might not even know….one moment you are a human life…..and the next you are a phoenix…..so where is the place in all this….of all the trivialities….of all the adjectives we use to classify a human life…..and give a status to those adjectives that is larger than life itself….the adjectives that classify and compartmentalize a human life into male and female and the rest….into Hindu and Muslim and the rest….into a Punjabi and a Tamil and the rest…..into a believer and a non-believer and the rest….and into the million other categories that we devise…..and spend all our lives doing it…..devising categories to fit people into them….so that we could decide whether to love them or hate them or just ignore them…..and in all this…the one single life that we have…that is our own…..just passes by…moment by moment….second by second…..closer and closer to those ashes…..to rise into a phoenix….a phoenix that is just a mirror of the human life that once was….as trivial or as consequential as that human life could make it…..

Sunday 18 October 2015

Hold your cuckoos tight!

There are voices. There are sounds. There are people speaking all around you. Sometimes relevant, mostly irrelevant. You listen in. You don't have a choice. Sometimes you register, sometimes you don't. And then you try to concentrate on something relevant to you.    You read a book or you tune in to some music. You feel better. There are things you feel like running away from and then there are things that attract you. You are jogging in the morning and hear a cuckoo's koo koo. You may like it. But why do you like it?  Because its tune to your ears but thats not really pertinent to you. May be you are not that individualistic that you just care about about your material obsessions. May be you FEEL some things. 
You have heart to feel and to distinguish between what to listen and what to feel. And so, all looks alright. But sometimes, you may want that same Cuckoo to just shut up. And then, you shout at it or may be, throw a stone at it and scare it. She stops to koo and flies away. And you are back to your own self. Happy or no, you must be unhappy, downcasted by someone or some emotion. And you are back alone. That cuckoo's voice wasn't really a noise but a soothing tune; but that day, you just did not register it. That day, it was just you.You subjugated and wanted to overcome everything around you. In a bid to control and hold back your own emotions, you dared to control others. In that moment, you held yourself supreme and instead of renouncing your own emotions, you went on to hurt others. The rhythmic cuckoo became a black ugly bird for you. Your perspectives changed, narrowing your view. Blinded by your own incapability to assimilate and conform to the circumstances, you just deepened the pit that was dug for you and you fell into it. 

Sometimes, It becomes really important that you feel what you must feel and control your mind and force yourself into action. There are situations when the mind just wants to sink itself into a pit hole, making circumstances more difficult. But, you mustn't fly the cuckoos away. There are people in your life that have always mattered to you and will always do. If you let them go, your life may not be the same again. 

Friday 16 October 2015

India of my dreams....

Truth, logic and reasoning are crucified when jugglery and deception become the norm and goalposts are shifted. So when cow becomes "gaumata", eating beef becomes a sin and murdering people becomes an act to be sympathized with, because who can resist when one's mother is being attacked? The Constitution is twisted and turned, religion is used as a plaything and God....who cares about that anyway? And the Prime Minister, unfortunately and sadly has his hands tied because law and order is a state subject.

WELCOME TO THE INDIA OF MY DREAMS.

You are hereby constitutionally guaranteed the freedom of speech and expression....the freedom to say or to remain silent....but shhhh....shhhh....shhhh....how could you work as a bar dancer?...its indecent and vulgar....We bar you from earning your livelihood....Oh!...how could you wear such indecent clothes and venture out so late at night, all on your own? Don't blame anyone later....girls like you are responsible for your own fate....How could you even think of watching such vulgarity...so what if it is even in the confines of your bedroom?....We forbid you to do it....what?....you want to attend the concert of the famous Ghulam Ali....but have you forgotten his origins?....so what if he is an artist par excellence....so what if he is just another individual as everyone else is....We will ensure that no such concert takes place at the first place....how could you even utter those words?....have you forgotten your gender?....how can you even have a thought of marrying a girl?.....Don't forget it's a sin....We forbid you.....What?....you are tired of living in this undeserving world?...But who told you, you have a right to your life?....We condemn you to live....because it is we who decide....we the people....we the collective....you are just an individual....inconsequential....invisible.....WE are the ones who rule....and shall always do....

WELCOME TO THE INDIA OF MY DREAMS.

Thursday 15 October 2015

The Outsider


They assure you…and they reassure you….

There’s no doubt in their mind that you now completely belong…

That you are all just one….that the impossible has become true….

That there is nothing that now remains…..nothing for which you shall long…..

 

And then it all begins….slow and silent….subtle and sublime….

Those furtive talks….those secret laughs…..at first you don’t care a dime….

But then it grows….and gathers….and spreads….

Whispers become loud…as it gains multiple heads….

 

In scared awe…..in disbelief….with eyes wide open….you watch….

In light and dark….with nakedness stark….its uncompromising march….

And it speaks and shouts….those words out loud….it had hidden all along…..

YOU ARE THE OUTSIDER…..you will always be….dare not even dream to belong….

Keep moving

A child was about to be born and the first thing she strenuously strove for was a challenging task, a struggle to make her way out of her mother's womb and reach this world; to see a world she waited for so many months, floating in a light-less water, alone and hidden from the world.

She was out in the world now and the meaning of life just changed for her. The world looked much more different than how it was in the past months. But that was how she had learned to be persistent and patient when it was most required because in such a situation, life did not give her any other option.

And so, a "struggle for existence" marked the start of life for the little child. And, though the life is much more that just thinking about the struggles, it just taught the child the underlying truth of living life; to never forget that in times of need when you would feel stuck and disgusted by the situations, you need to believe that there is a definitely a light at the end of the tunnel and so, you should just keep moving and never stop.

And this would be your journey - not just to the last day of your life but an inner journey to the spiritual confines of your soul and living this life based on constancy of ticking clock. The train of your life will halt at morning and night stations and the time spent in between would be the defining factor of the life. And the train never stops and so, you don't get that option. Happy or unhappy, you would be pulled by the train. This is just another way of letting us know - To LIVE and live happily. You are doing your best. Even if you failed at something, you either did try your best or you learnt. 

The clock keeps ticking, the heart keeps thumping, the sun keeps rising and setting, the eyes keep blinking, the thoughts keep running through your mind...Movement and marching ahead happily is the sole lesson this life wants us to learn and the sooner we learn, the better the results would be...

Wednesday 14 October 2015

My Voice


My Voice…did I ever have one of my own?...

I spoke often but the words, I am afraid, were loaned…

 

The mothers…fathers…brothers….sisters…uncles….aunties…neighbours….

That every person other than myself….young or old….lesser or greater…..

All those who existed in the past…those that lived….and would one day live…

Some of those who mattered and some who were just another blip…

Some who had always only spoken that which they heard from someone else…

Some who were oblivious of mind’s existence….some who crooned paeans dedicated to their own self…

Some who always shouted….some who never spoke….

Some who thought only this…”Life will take its own course….”

Some who could think….some who only pretended to….

Some who wanted to hold on….some who could just let go….

 

In all these voices of him….of her….of all of them….

Did I ever have one that was my own….that was saying something more than just following the trend?...

 

This question is not mine to answer….at least not mine alone….

We will all have to answer it some day….can’t dodge it for too long….

The day we choose to answer this….let’s hope it dawns with a bless….

That the only word that parts our lips….is nothing but a resounding “Yes”….!!!!

Look ahead

The day was marred by so many 'why's....certain decisions taken in the past....Why were they taken and even though they proved right, it sounds immaterial now if they point to an aimless direction...What marks an action as a right or a wrong decision is to be decided by proper justifications of the mind, but what if the mind lack those? Then u must not be trying enough and not living the life to the fullest..And your struggle to evolve and be aware of yourself must go on until you realize and understand the complex phenomenons of your mind and then, you need to tame your mind as per your own awareness..The mind gains awareness to know whats its doing wrong and then tames itself towards the correct path..Correcting oneself is the need, the sole desire and soul peace..And so, the time that's yet to come had more bearing than the past and so, whys look more appropriate to the future decisions than to past and so, 'look ahead' is the need of the hour and must be followed religiously. There are many tasks lined ahead and if they can be well planned logically, the life would certainly change for better. The unnecessary inconvenience needs to be avoided with the sole motive of look ahead policy...
All the best

Tuesday 12 May 2015

Radhika's Ujaala


Sitting in the veranda on this lazy morning, she was drooling over the events of the past six months. She was finding it impossible to keep her tears in check trying to comprehend the direction in which destiny had steered her. Till not quite long back, she used to consider herself as the luckiest girl in the entire world. She had aced her MBA examinations and had got placed in a reputed MNC four years back. She had worked hard and earned herself a decent reputation in her company. She had also built up substantial savings for purchasing her dream home in Mumbai. Finally, two years back she had married her childhood love and they had pooled their savings to purchase their dream home and had relocated there. She could not have asked for much more in her life till….

“Radhika….Radhika…..”…Neeraj’s voice sounded concerned. He found her seated in the veranda lost in deep thoughts.

“Radhika…..Radhika….what’s wrong?”…He shook her out of her reverie.

Looking at Neeraj, she no longer could control her tears and they streamed down her cheeks, leaving behind marks of sorrow on her pale skin. Neeraj took her in his arms and tried to console her.

“Oh Radhika….don’t lose hope….who knows destiny has much better plans in store for us….there are thousands of kids in need of love, care and a safe and secure home….giving birth to a child is not the only way you can become a mother….I promise you that we will soon have a cute little daughter in this home calling you Mumma…Mumma…”

Hearing these reassuring words, Radhika became still more inconsolable, and in between her sobs, looked at Neeraj with eyes full of love and gratitude….”Oh Neeraj! I love you…..”

Almost a month had passed by and with continuous loving support from Neeraj, Radhika had somehow managed to get her life back on track. She was returning home after a hectic day when she saw big, bright, smiling, green eyes staring at her with innocent affection. A lady with a beautiful child in her arms was talking to one of Radhika’s neighbours. After the usual round of courtesies, Radhika learned that she had new neighbours in the flat across hers. They were a family of four, Shama and Nafees, both software engineers in the same firm, Nafees’s mother and the adorable little Ujaala.

That first eye-contact with Ujaala was enough for Radhika to fall head over heels in love with her. Visiting Shama’s flat to see and play with Ujaala had become a permanent daily evening ritual of her life. Ujaala also soon became extremely attached to Radhika and would look forward to her daily visit.

Radhika was feeling like dancing with childish joy and excitement today. It was Ujaala’s first birthday! Radhika had purchased a truckload of gifts for Ujaala and was just stepping out of her house to go to Shama’s house when she saw a police official walking towards their building. He saw Radhika standing in the doorway and approached her….”Could you please tell me where Mr. Nafees’s house is?”….he asked, in a dominating voice. Radhika pointed towards Nafees and Shama’s house reluctantly, with horror filled eyes…..”Inspector, what is the issue?”…She asked with a tinge of fear in her voice. “I have a complaint against them for trying to convert their neighbours to their religion”…he remarked nonchalantly. His matter-of-fact remark was enough to send shivers down Radhika’s entire body. She got rooted to the spot and couldn’t move for a while. Mustering all her courage, she probed for details. She was shocked beyond belief to hear what the inspector had to say.

Their common neighbours had complained against Nafees and Shama that they had developed overly friendly relations with Radhika and Neeraj with an intent to convert them to their religion. They had cited numerous examples, such as their offering prayers at Radhika’s house occasionally, spotting a copy of Quran at Radhika’s place, their regular mutual visits, Radhika’s extreme attachment and love for Ujaala and so on and so forth.

Radhika was dumbfounded to hear all this. After a few seconds, she managed to regain her composure. She tried to reason to the best of her ability with the police official standing in front of her. “Sir, I think you have been entirely mistaken. Nafees and Shama are like family to us. We are extremely close to each other and enjoy each other’s’ company. Ujaala is more than a daughter to me. But religion has never been even a topic of discussion between us. They have never ever tried, intentionally or unintentionally, to impose their religious beliefs on us in any manner. Please ignore the complaint. We are sorry that your precious time was wasted…” She finished her urgent entreaties with an expectant look at the Inspector.

After listening to her patiently, the Inspector smiled a mischievous smile….”Thank you for the information, Madam. Now, if you could please excuse me and let me do my work?”….Radhika was again left rooted to the spot in disbelief. The scene that followed, got etched in her memory forever. Despite all her pleadings and entreaties, the police officials forcibly took away Nafees and Shama along with them, leaving behind a confused and crying Ujaala in her grandmother’s arms.

Radhika immediately called up Neeraj and they rushed to the police station. After much deliberations, the police officials released Nafees and Shama on bail with strict warnings to not indulge in proselytising activities in future. It was past midnight when all four of them returned home, distraught and exhausted, after an unbelievable and long day.

In the next few days, Radhika saw her whole world collapse in front of her eyes. Despite Radhika and Neeraj’s repeated requests and assurances, Nafees and Shama refused to continue to stay in the city. They were too shaken up and scared after the incident and had firmly resolved to leave the city.

That day was the last time Radhika saw her Ujaala with her big, bright, smiling, green eyes staring at her with innocent affection. She was refusing to leave Radhika’s arms. In turn, Radhika was facing great difficulty in keeping her tears in check. She didn’t want to bid adieu to Ujaala forever, with tears in her eyes.

Ujaala had wailed inconsolably when Shama finally forcibly took her from Radhika’s arms. Radhika could only see a blurred image of Ujaala through her tear-filled eyes. She rushed back inside her house and collapsed on the bed crying out with uncontrollable grief. That was the last time Radhika saw her Ujaala……the light of her life had left her forever, leaving behind a permanent void in her heart that refuses to be filled to this day…….

Lessons from the Leslee Udwin Documentary


The recent ban imposed on the airing of the documentary titled “India’s Daughter” by Leslee Udwin, has again brought the infamous 2012 Nirbhaya rape case to the limelight. The brutal and insensitive rape of a 23 year old paramedic student in the National Capital Territory of Delhi sent shockwaves in the entire nation and resulted in mass protests of the kind never seen before in Indian history. The sustained and prolonged public protests forced the government to sit up and take notice. The Justice JS Verma Committee was appointed to “look into possible amendments of the Criminal Law to provide for quicker trial and enhanced punishment for criminals committing sexual assault of extreme nature against women”. The preface of the report submitted by the Committee on January 23, 2013 notes, “The constitution of this Committee is in response to the country-wide peaceful public outcry of civil society, led by the youth, against the failure of governance to provide a safe and dignified environment for the women of India, who are constantly exposed to sexual violence. The immediate cause was the brutal gang rape of a young woman in the heart of the nation’s capital in a public transport vehicle in the late evening of December 16, 2012”. The Committee submitted its report in a record time of 30 days. It made some path-breaking recommendations, some of which were accepted and resulted in the Criminal Law Amendment Act, 2012. Although the committee stopped short of recommending death penalty for rapists, they were nevertheless awarded the same, the final plea to which is pending with the Supreme Court. The gruesome nature of the rape and the fatal physical injuries inflicted on the victim led the court to categorize this case among the rarest of rare cases, deserving an award of death penalty.

 

This incident became a landmark in that it sparked a plethora of debates ranging from law and order and good governance issues to the need of gender sensitivity and a major cultural re-orientation in our society in the way it views and treats its women.

 

The release of the documentary by Leslee Udwin and its hasty banning by the Indian government has re-ignited the debates. The focus this time around has shifted to the accused and their warped mind-sets towards women and the general patriarchal set-up of the Indian society. This shift in focus is a result of the interviews conducted with one of the accused and their lawyers, which clearly portray the unrepentant attitude of the accused two years after committing the crime, and being awarded death penalty for the same. The interviews with the defence lawyers lay bare the ingrained gender bias and male domination in our society.

 

The government, in its haste to ban the release of the documentary in India, has inexplicably reasoned that airing of such views by the accused and their lawyers are is against “national interest” and derogatory to India’s image in the world. This stance, though disgusting, may not be surprising. The government has only lived up to its true character of creating hype for all the wrong reasons and in the process, side-lining the real issues plaguing our society.

 

For me, two core areas emerge that need to be redressed to have a real and lasting impact in transforming our society and changing its mind-set. One is, the right education at the right time, and second is the much neglected domain of prison reforms. The two might not seem to be much inter-related at the first glance, but I will elaborate further on a need of substantial reforms in both, and the exponential impact it can have on the society.

 

Let us first look at the much discussed field of education. It has been widely conceded that a serious and substantive reform of the society has its roots in education reforms. In the wider field of education too, primary education deserves a special mention here. It has been clinically proven that the formative years of an individual’s life play a substantial and crucial role in shaping the personality of an individual. The right guidance at this time of life goes a long way in shaping an individual into a well-developed human being with a satisfactory ability to distinguish between right and wrong. Education is the only means through which this goal can be achieved.

 

The key factor here is the differentiation between education and literacy. The Right to Education Act, 2005 has made education a free and compulsory right for all between the ages of 6years and 14 years. This Act has played a major role in near universalization of education. But the problem does-not end there. According to the 10th Annual Status of Education Report, 2014, released by Pratham, the quality of education, especially in the government schools, leaves a lot to be desired. For instance, according to the report, out of all children enrolled in Std. V, about half cannot read even at Std. II level. The report goes on to suggest some useful measures that can be taken to augment the learning outcomes for children. These, inter alia include, grouping by level and not by grade, special focus, time attention and use of innovative teaching methods in Class I and Class II to ensure that children acquire basic skills, involvement of parents in the entire learning process etc.

 

Another aspect of the entire learning process is the value system that the children inculcate. The aim of education should be not only to enable an individual to read and write, but also, and more importantly, to build a strong value system, which includes respect for humanity, gender sensitivity, achievement orientation, values of honesty, integrity, hard work, empathy etc.

 

In order to achieve this goal, the entire mind-set towards the teaching-learning process needs to undergo a complete overhaul. First and foremost, there is an urgent need to recognize the importance of education, especially at the elementary level. The curriculum designed should not only target at making an individual literate, but also educated, learned and fit enough to live in the society as a well-rounded individual. Teaching needs to be re-established as a noble profession and put on a high pedestal. The economic and social status of teachers should be made commensurate to the importance of their role. Their selection process needs to be rigorous and their training continuous and meaningful. Even the non-state actors in the field of education should be adequately supported and encouraged.

 

The second area in need of urgent attention and repair which I want to highlight here is the field of prison reforms. The modern prison in India originated with the Minute by TB Macaulay in 1835. The present jail management and administration in India operates on the basis of the outdated Prisons Act, 1894. Several Committees and Commissions have been appointed to give recommendations in this area, which include, the recommendations given by Dr. W.C. Reckless, a UN expert, All India Jail Manual Committee, Mulla Committee, Krishna Iyer Committee etc. All these committees have given useful recommendations to deal with the problems of overcrowding in jails, corruption and extortion, unsatisfactory living conditions, staff shortage and poor training, inadequate prison programs, poor spending on healthcare and welfare, lack of legal aid, abuse of prisoners, inadequate means of mental and spiritual development etc. Most of these recommendations have remained on paper and the conditions of Indian prisons remains dismal to say the least.

 

To make any real headway in this area, again a complete change in mind-set is required. Prisons need to be seen not as punishing institutions but as reforming institutions. It is natural that after the Nirbhaya rape case, the country cried out for justice in one voice, and quick legal changes were introduced to calm the nation down. But the controversy surrounding the release of the documentary forces us to think beyond the usual. Even after being given the death sentence and spending more than two years in jail, the accused retains the audacity to justify his crime and almost be proud of having committed it. The thought provoking aspect here is not the effect that airing such views will have on the society, but the underlying conditions that encourage this perverted thinking of the accused. He is only giving back what he has been able to take in. He has never been taught to value life. He does not know the meaning of female dignity. Is it that impossible a task to show him the right path and guide him to right action? If an individual can be indoctrinated to act as a human bomb and take his own life for a perpetrated cause, can he not be indoctrinated with the right values to live a life of dignity and respect? Can our prisons not open the doors to a new life for the misguided ones who enter their doors? Yes, there will remain a few who refuse to reform, and we do have adequate laws to deal with such ones, but for the rest, do we not has something better to offer?

 

Do the above measures not have the potential to create a ripple effect and make the world a much better place to live in? I leave you to decide for yourself.

 

Friday 9 January 2015

The elusive one correct answer


The indefensible act of violence on the staff of the French magazine, Charlie Hebdo, has once again brought to the limelight some uncomfortable, yet unavoidable, questions that are gaining in urgency with every passing day.

What is society? Is a peaceful and harmonious existence possible for the society? If yes, is it essential to have certain common, even if minimal, ground rules for the peaceful and harmonious existence of society? If yes, who should form those rules and can their implementation be ensured uniformly across the world? If the right to free speech and expression is a part of these ground rules, does it also include the right to offend? If yes, does it also, by corollary, not include the right to be offended? If both of these rights co-exist, to what extent can an individual or a group be allowed to exercise them? Is it possible for rights to be absolute or should they be accompanied by certain restrictions? If restrictions are necessary, what should be a test of their reasonableness? If rights are enforceable in a court of law, should duties not be so?

There are numerous such thought provoking questions with no one right answer. The realm of mind is occupied by thoughts, which leads to the development of an individual’s worldview. These thoughts are neither static nor do they exist in isolation. They effect and are in turn affected by the surroundings, as also the life experiences of an individual. They are also in a continuous state of flux. The environments as well as the life experiences of no two individuals are the same. Further, the reaction of no two individuals, even to the same action, is the same. So, in this world of myriad thoughts and worldviews, how do we arrive at a least common denominator which permits all of us to co-exist in harmony with each-other and our surroundings? Sounds emphatic, doesn’t it?

Another thing which we have got to understand here is that our quest for the answers to above questions can end only in an optimum solution and not the best possible one. So, if any one of us is dreaming of an ideal state of existence, it would be better to nip that thought in the bud itself, as utopia can-not be real. Utopias serve an indispensable functions in our life, of enabling us to visualize idealism, even if just in the world of imagination, but alas! They can-not co-exist with reality. And the reality is that we are living in an imperfect world, which is the sum total of many imperfect individuals.

So, where does all this leave us with our set of questions? Let us try to answer these questions in the context of the above incident. Umpteen voices have risen in the condemnation of the killings as also in favour of an unbridled right to free speech and expression and an embedded right to offend. I will probably be committing blasphemy if I even attempt to deviate from this point of view. But my attempt here is to just put things in perspective.

I am an unalloyed supporter of the right to free speech and expression and all the other plethora of rights that flow from it. But I am not the sole constituent of this society. The world society consists of billions of other people, each with his/her own thoughts, beliefs, values and viewpoints. The only way we all can live together is by following the “middle path” as Buddha said (at least in our interactions with the society). What defines this middle path? Unfortunately, I don’t have a single fitting definition for it. But, it would not be impossible to arrive at some minimum common definition broadly acceptable to most, if we set out to work towards it.

Violence in any manner, to the utmost of provocations, is nothing but contemptible. There is no justification whatsoever for this gruesome act. But violence is not only physical; it also can take other forms. For some individuals, spoken or written word may constitute violence, if they feel it hurts their sensibilities. Again, ideally, the hurt caused to their sensibilities is no reason to gag me. And even if I am gagged, it is no guarantee that they will not find another reason to get hurt. So, what is achieved by placing restrictions on my freedoms and rights? May be not meaning a lot to many, but at least one small thing is achieved. What is achieved is the denial of a reason to such deviated minds, to even try to justify themselves. Let them come out, unaided and unassisted, in stark nakedness for what they are.

What if we give it a try? What if we refrain ourselves from going to extremes? And the yardstick here has to be of our own making. No external individual, group, government or society should be given the right to tell us what to do, what to say or how to act. But let us be our own guides.

This will, not in the least guarantee that Charlie Hebdo will not be repeated, but will at least reduce one reason out of the plethora that are served to us for such dastardly and cowardly acts.

Yes, it is true that the same mayhem may be repeated for some other, equally unjustifiable reason, but then how to build a world where only sanity prevails and insanity is completely vanquished? What is it that can be done so that a Charlie Hebdo, or a WTC, or a Peshawar, or a Mumbai Taj, or a Godhra, or for that matter, a Vietnam, an Iraq or an Afghanistan war, or even the holocaust, or more recently a Guantanamo Bay, is not repeated? Do you have that one correct answer?

Thursday 1 January 2015

Happy New Year 2015


Here’s wishing another happy, healthy and prosperous New Year to one and all. As the calendar on your wall shows 2015 starting today, take it as an opportunity to rejuvenate your life and give a renewed focus to everything that you hold dear.
 
Start with yourself. Take out time and set targets for the development of your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health.
 
Eat and drink healthy, exercise and sleep well.
Be a good listener. Empathize. Self-introspect.
Work harder. Be a smart worker.
Dream and develop the ability to fulfil your dreams.
Live and let live.
Love and accept love.
Make the world around you a better place to live in.
Think about your children and the future you want them to have, before any action you perform.
Give back to the world.
Rise above the ordinary.
Be a better human being in the next moment than you were in the previous moment.
Take out time for yourself, your self development and growth.
Learn to be tolerant.
Invest in the future of your children.
Look beyond yourself and your family; embrace the world with open arms.
Read, for it is the mind’s tonic.
Be in the moment. Enjoy whatever you do.
Forgive yourself and others.
Smile as much as you can and spread as many smiles as you can.
Reason and faith can go hand in hand. Be reasonable, and never lose faith.
 
In this new year, just take one pledge, to value life above all else, because that is all you have.